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"Before You Yell" — 5 Steps to Calm
The exact words when your patience is gone. Tape it to the fridge tonight.
Step 1 — Free
Free "before you yell" — 5 steps to calm guide (1 page, print it tonight)
Spot the clue. Stop it calmly. Support the next time.
Read it right now — nothing locked
- 1.Step 1 — Pause. Say nothing for 5 seconds. Get low, soften your face, drop your voice.
- 2.Step 2 — Name it. "Something is hard right now. I'm right here." Nothing else yet.
- 3.Step 3 — Breathe together. "Breathe in with me… and out." Do it three times, slower each time.
- 4.Step 4 — Offer one small choice. "Water or the beanbag?" One step, never two.
- 5.Step 5 — Repair later, not now. When the body is calm, ask: "What would help next time?"
Step 2 — Answer 5 quick questions and I'll build your child's own "before you yell" — 5 steps to calm plan, free.
Build my free plan (2 min)Built for school, too
We write the school documentation your child's team needs before they will give services.
School documentation = the written, dated paperwork a school acts on. Four pieces:
- Incident log — dated notes of what happened and what set it off
- Pattern summary — the trigger behind the behavior, in school language
- Home support plan — the steps that work at home, written for the teacher
- Request letter — asks the school for an evaluation or supports — they must answer
Schools move when there is paper. Most parents ask and wait. You will walk in with documentation.
Sharing helps another parent get through tonight — nothing about your child is shared.
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Step 2 · Go deeper
🌊 Meltdown Rescue
What your child is really saying — and how to help them come back down.
- Every printable in this moment — not just the one page
- Word-for-word scripts for before, during, and after
- I Do / We Do / You Do practice so it sticks
- About 45 minutes, start to finish
One payment. Yours to keep. Included free with any Behavior Struggle Map plan.
You've got the free piece. Here's the 122-piece map.
Free tools help in the moment. The 122-piece Behavior Struggle Map gives you the step-by-step route from the hard moment to calm — built for your child.
Start tonight
122 pieces — the full Behavior Struggle Map
$97$197
122 pieces in 13 kits
- Tonight's Script — word for word
- Meltdown Emergency Card (print it now)
- Behavior Tracker: spot it, stop it, support it, solve it
- School-ready summary for the teacher or IEP team
- + 118 more pages, cards and letters
13 kits · 122 ready-to-print pieces · was $197
What your $97 gets you
Every kit solves one hard part of your day. Nothing to build — open it, print it, use it.
Updated: Teen & Young Adult Tools, Bedtime Battles, and Angry Mornings are included.
Kit 1 · 10 pieces
Tonight — relief in 10 minutes
Kit 2 · 10 pieces
Spot the Clue
Kit 3 · 12 pieces
Daily Rhythm
Kit 4 · 10 pieces
Calm Tools
Kit 5 · 10 pieces
School Paper Trail
Kit 6 · 10 pieces
Meeting Day (IEP / 504)
Kit 7 · 8 pieces
Track & Prove
Kit 8 · 8 pieces
Slow Processing & Wait Time
Kit 9 · 12 pieces
Big Behaviors by Type
Kit 10 · 10 pieces
Kid-Facing Printables
Kit 11 · 10 pieces
Teen & Young Adult Tools
Kit 12 · 6 pieces
Parent Care
Kit 13 · 6 pieces
Life Disruptions
How you use it
- Step 1 — Open tonight's kit: Pick the struggle you are in right now. Read the script out loud. Relief in about 10 minutes.
- Step 2 — Print the calm cards: Put them on the fridge and in your bag so anyone with your child knows the same 3 steps.
- Step 3 — Log what you saw: One line a day on the log page. In a week you can see the pattern behind the behavior.
- Step 4 — Hand the school the plan: Print the school summary and the letter. You walk in with facts, not a story.
How this solves your problem: the yelling and the meltdowns keep repeating because no one has named the clue behind them. The Map names the clue, gives you the words for the moment, and turns what happens at home into the documented plan the school will act on.
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