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Everything is on this page — minute-by-minute steps, calm scripts, what NOT to say, repair prompts, and crisis resources. Read it now, print it for the fridge, or save it as a PDF.

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Page 1

Minute-by-minute response

Follow these in order. You don't need to remember them — just start at the top.

Minute 0–2 · Regulate yourself first

  • Drop the agenda. The lesson, the chore, the timer — gone. Your only job right now is safety and calm.
  • Box breath: in 4, hold 4, out 4, hold 4. Twice. Out loud if you can — they will copy you.
  • Lower everything: lower your voice, lower your body (sit or kneel), lower the lights if you can.

Minute 2–5 · Make the space safe

  • Move objects, not the child. Slide what they could throw or break. Don't restrain unless someone is being hurt.
  • Clear the audience. Siblings, screens, pets — out of the room. Less input = faster regulation.
  • Stay near, not on. Be a calm presence within reach. Don't tower over them.

Minute 5–10 · Co-regulate, don't teach

  • Do NOT lecture. Their brain can't hear you yet. Teaching happens later, when both of you are calm.
  • Offer one sensory anchor: a heavy blanket, a cold drink, a hug if welcomed, dim lights, or silence.
  • Name it small: "That was big. You're coming back down. I'm proud of you for staying with me."

Page 2

Scripts — what to say, what NOT to say

Read these out loud now so they're ready in your mouth when the moment hits.

Say this

  • For screaming / meltdown

    "You're safe. I'm right here. I'm not going anywhere."

  • For aggression

    "I won't let you hurt me, and I won't hurt you. I'm staying close."

  • For self-harm

    "Your body is precious. Let's keep it safe together. I'll sit with you."

  • For "I hate myself / I want to die"

    "That's a really big feeling. I hear you. You don't have to be okay right now — I'm here."

  • For shutdowns

    Say nothing. Sit nearby. Slide a glass of water over. Wait.

Skip these in the moment

  • "Stop crying." / "Calm down."
  • "You're being ridiculous."
  • "If you don't stop, then ___."
  • "Why are you doing this to me?"
  • "Big kids don't act like this."

These shut the brain down faster — even when we mean well. Save the teaching for later.

Page 3

Repair & reflect (1–24 hours later)

After the storm. Reconnection first, then a tiny bit of reflection — not a lecture.

Reconnect first

A snack together. A short walk. A quiet shoulder squeeze. You are rebuilding safety in their nervous system before any words land.

Prompts to try (pick one)

  • "I love you. We got through that together."
  • "What did your body need that it couldn't say with words?"
  • "What part was the hardest for you?"
  • "Next time you feel that big, what's one thing I can do?"
  • Write down the ABCs together: what happened before, what the behavior looked like, what happened after.

For YOU, parent

One sentence, out loud or in your phone: "Today was hard. I stayed. That counts." Hard moments shrink when you name what you did right.

Page 4

Crisis resources at a glance

Keep this page open or printed in the kitchen. You don't have to remember — just look here.

If anyone is in immediate danger

  • 911 — immediate physical danger
  • 988 — Suicide & Crisis Lifeline (US, call or text)
  • Text HOME to 741741 — Crisis Text Line
  • 1-800-422-4453 — Childhelp National Child Abuse Hotline

When to ask for more help

  • Meltdowns happen daily for more than 2 weeks.
  • Self-harm leaves marks, or your child talks about wanting to die.
  • You or anyone in the home is getting hurt.
  • You feel like you can't keep going. You matter too.

Who to loop in this week

  • Your child's pediatrician — ask for a behavioral health referral.
  • School counselor or case manager — they can request an FBA or BIP.
  • A trusted adult for YOU — a friend, partner, faith leader, or therapist.

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