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Everything is on this page — minute-by-minute steps, calm scripts, what NOT to say, repair prompts, and crisis resources. Read it now, print it for the fridge, or save it as a PDF.

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Page 1

Minute-by-minute response

Follow these in order. You don't need to remember them — just start at the top.

Minute 0–2 · Regulate yourself first

Drop the agenda. The lesson, the chore, the timer — gone. Your only job right now is safety and calm.
Box breath: in 4, hold 4, out 4, hold 4. Twice. Out loud if you can — they will copy you.
Lower everything: lower your voice, lower your body (sit or kneel), lower the lights if you can.

Minute 2–5 · Make the space safe

Move objects, not the child. Slide what they could throw or break. Don't restrain unless someone is being hurt.
Clear the audience. Siblings, screens, pets — out of the room. Less input = faster regulation.
Stay near, not on. Be a calm presence within reach. Don't tower over them.

Minute 5–10 · Co-regulate, don't teach

Do NOT lecture. Their brain can't hear you yet. Teaching happens later, when both of you are calm.
Offer one sensory anchor: a heavy blanket, a cold drink, a hug if welcomed, dim lights, or silence.
Name it small: "That was big. You're coming back down. I'm proud of you for staying with me."

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Scripts — what to say, what NOT to say

Read these out loud now so they're ready in your mouth when the moment hits.

Say this

For screaming / meltdown
"You're safe. I'm right here. I'm not going anywhere."
For aggression
"I won't let you hurt me, and I won't hurt you. I'm staying close."
For self-harm
"Your body is precious. Let's keep it safe together. I'll sit with you."
For "I hate myself / I want to die"
"That's a really big feeling. I hear you. You don't have to be okay right now — I'm here."
For shutdowns
Say nothing. Sit nearby. Slide a glass of water over. Wait.

Skip these in the moment

"Stop crying." / "Calm down."
"You're being ridiculous."
"If you don't stop, then ___."
"Why are you doing this to me?"
"Big kids don't act like this."

These shut the brain down faster — even when we mean well. Save the teaching for later.

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Repair & reflect (1–24 hours later)

After the storm. Reconnection first, then a tiny bit of reflection — not a lecture.

Reconnect first

A snack together. A short walk. A quiet shoulder squeeze. You are rebuilding safety in their nervous system before any words land.

Prompts to try (pick one)

"I love you. We got through that together."
"What did your body need that it couldn't say with words?"
"What part was the hardest for you?"
"Next time you feel that big, what's one thing I can do?"
Write down the ABCs together: what happened before, what the behavior looked like, what happened after.

For YOU, parent

One sentence, out loud or in your phone: "Today was hard. I stayed. That counts." Hard moments shrink when you name what you did right.

Page 4

Crisis resources at a glance

Keep this page open or printed in the kitchen. You don't have to remember — just look here.

If anyone is in immediate danger

911 — immediate physical danger
988 — Suicide & Crisis Lifeline (US, call or text)
Text HOME to 741741 — Crisis Text Line
1-800-422-4453 — Childhelp National Child Abuse Hotline

When to ask for more help

Meltdowns happen daily for more than 2 weeks.
Self-harm leaves marks, or your child talks about wanting to die.
You or anyone in the home is getting hurt.
You feel like you can't keep going. You matter too.

Who to loop in this week

Your child's pediatrician — ask for a behavioral health referral.
School counselor or case manager — they can request an FBA or BIP.
A trusted adult for YOU — a friend, partner, faith leader, or therapist.

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How you use it

Step 1 — Open tonight's kit: Pick the struggle you are in right now. Read the script out loud. Relief in about 10 minutes.
Step 2 — Print the calm cards: Put them on the fridge and in your bag so anyone with your child knows the same 3 steps.
Step 3 — Log what you saw: One line a day on the log page. In a week you can see the pattern behind the behavior.
Step 4 — Hand the school the plan: Print the school summary and the letter. You walk in with facts, not a story.

How this solves your problem: the yelling and the meltdowns keep repeating because no one has named the clue behind them. The Map names the clue, gives you the words for the moment, and turns what happens at home into the documented plan the school will act on.

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