Behavior leaves clues · The 3 words that calm the moment
Stop
Pause before the yelling starts.
Breathe
Calm your body so they can calm theirs.
Say what I need
Use the exact words that work.
Day 29 · Not listening
Following through without yelling
Say it once. Then move your body, not your voice.
Do this tonight
- 1Step 1: Say it once, close, with eye contact.
- 2Step 2: Count to five in your head. Give the brain time.
- 3Step 3: Walk over and help start it. Help is not giving in.
Practice it: I Do / We Do / You Do
I Do — You show the say-once-then-help routine.
We Do — You start the task together for 30 seconds.
You Do — Your child finishes it alone.
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122 pieces in 13 kits
- Tonight's Script — word for word
- Meltdown Emergency Card (print it now)
- Behavior Tracker: spot it, stop it, support it, solve it
- School-ready summary for the teacher or IEP team
- + 118 more pages, cards and letters
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Every kit solves one hard part of your day. Nothing to build — open it, print it, use it.
Updated: Teen & Young Adult Tools, Bedtime Battles, and Angry Mornings are included.
Kit 1 · 10 pieces
Tonight — relief in 10 minutes
Kit 2 · 10 pieces
Spot the Clue
Kit 3 · 12 pieces
Daily Rhythm
Kit 4 · 10 pieces
Calm Tools
Kit 5 · 10 pieces
School Paper Trail
Kit 6 · 10 pieces
Meeting Day (IEP / 504)
Kit 7 · 8 pieces
Track & Prove
Kit 8 · 8 pieces
Slow Processing & Wait Time
Kit 9 · 12 pieces
Big Behaviors by Type
Kit 10 · 10 pieces
Kid-Facing Printables
Kit 11 · 10 pieces
Teen & Young Adult Tools
Kit 12 · 6 pieces
Parent Care
Kit 13 · 6 pieces
Life Disruptions
How you use it
- Step 1 — Open tonight's kit: Pick the struggle you are in right now. Read the script out loud. Relief in about 10 minutes.
- Step 2 — Print the calm cards: Put them on the fridge and in your bag so anyone with your child knows the same 3 steps.
- Step 3 — Log what you saw: One line a day on the log page. In a week you can see the pattern behind the behavior.
- Step 4 — Hand the school the plan: Print the school summary and the letter. You walk in with facts, not a story.
How this solves your problem: the yelling and the meltdowns keep repeating because no one has named the clue behind them. The Map names the clue, gives you the words for the moment, and turns what happens at home into the documented plan the school will act on.
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