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The Grandparent Card

What to hand the relative who says "they just need a spanking."

"He isn't giving me a hard time. He's having a hard time."
"When he's upset, the thinking part of his brain is offline. Lectures land later."
"Please don't threaten or laugh at him. It makes the next hour worse for me."
"You can help: get low, stay quiet, and stay close."
"If he's unsafe, come get me. I'll handle it."
"We keep the rule. We change how we say it."

Print it small. Tape it inside a kitchen cabinet at their house.

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