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🫁 Calm First

Regulate yourself before you regulate the child.

This classroom is the practice. You learn the move and try it at home. The Behavior Struggle Map is the separate paperwork — the filled-in logs, letters, and plan for the school. We do not repeat it here.

Tonight’s goal: You stop yelling tonight, even when they push every button.

19 min0/3 lessons doneBadge: Calm Starter

What you walk away with

A 60-second reset you can do in the hallway before you speak.

Session 1 of 3 · 6 min

FREE SEAT
1

Why you yell (it is not because you are a bad parent)

Yelling is a body reaction, not a character flaw. Once you know the signal, you can catch it early.

On the board tonight

  1. 1Notice your first body sign — hot face, tight jaw, loud breath.
  2. 2Name it out loud in your head: "My body is going up."
  3. 3Put one hand on the wall or counter. That stops the pacing.
  4. 4Wait for one full breath before any word leaves your mouth.

Round 1

I DoWatch first

I show you the three body signs that come right before a yell.

Round 2

We DoPractice together

We practice catching the sign in the live room using your real story from this week.

Round 3

You DoTry it solo

You catch it once tonight and post what your body did first.

Homework · This week

Write down your #1 body sign on a sticky note. Put it on the fridge.

Session 2 of 3 · 8 min

FREE SEAT
2

The 60-second reset

You cannot calm a child with a body that is still in the fight. This is the fastest way down.

On the board tonight

  1. 1Say "I need one minute." Walk 5 steps away.
  2. 2Breathe in for 4, hold for 4, out for 6. Do it three times.
  3. 3Drop your shoulders and unclench your jaw.
  4. 4Pick ONE sentence to say when you walk back.
  5. 5Walk back slow. Low voice. Get on their eye level.

Say this — word for word

  • "I need one minute. I am coming right back."
  • "I am not leaving you. I am getting calm so I can help."
  • "I am back. Let's start over."

Round 1

I DoWatch first

I walk you through the reset on video so you hear the pace and the tone.

Round 2

We DoPractice together

We do the breathing together at the start of every live call.

Round 3

You DoTry it solo

You run the reset one time tonight before you speak.

Homework · This week

Do the reset once, even on a good night, so your body learns it.

Session 3 of 3 · 5 min

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3

Repair after you lose it

The repair matters more than the mistake. This is how trust comes back.

On the board tonight

  1. 1Wait until you are actually calm. Not 30 seconds after.
  2. 2Own your part only. Do not add "but you..."
  3. 3Say what you will do next time.
  4. 4Ask for one small thing to do together — snack, walk, book.

Say this — word for word

  • "I yelled. That was mine, not yours."
  • "Next time I am going to take my minute first."
  • "Can we start over together?"

Round 1

I DoWatch first

I model a real repair, word for word.

Round 2

We DoPractice together

We rewrite your repair sentence together so it fits your child's age.

Round 3

You DoTry it solo

You say it to your child and post how they answered.

Homework · This week

Say one repair sentence this week. Notice their face when you do.

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Turn 2: Spot the Clue

What happened right before the behavior?

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