Free · Ages 13–17
Teen Regulation Kit
Calm, respectful tools for shutdowns, anger, school pressure, screens, sleep, friendships, independence, and repair.
Step 1
Shutdowns
The clue
Silence may mean their brain is full, not that they do not care.
Say this
“You do not have to answer now. Tell me when words feel easier.”
- Step 1 — I Do: Model a quiet pause without filling it with questions.
- Step 2 — We Do: Pick a signal your teen can use when words stop.
- Step 3 — You Do: Your teen uses the signal and returns when ready.
Step 2
Anger and sharp words
The clue
A flooded brain reaches for fast words before careful ones.
Say this
“I hear the anger. We can pause without hurting each other.”
- Step 1 — I Do: Lower your voice and stop the back-and-forth.
- Step 2 — We Do: Agree on one safe place to cool down.
- Step 3 — You Do: Your teen asks for the pause before words get sharp.
Step 3
School pressure
The clue
Missing work or refusal can hide overload, confusion, or fear of failing.
Say this
“Show me the hardest part. We will start with one small piece.”
- Step 1 — I Do: Break one assignment into the first visible action.
- Step 2 — We Do: Work for 10 minutes, then check the load together.
- Step 3 — You Do: Your teen names the support they need at school.
Step 4
Phone and screen transitions
The clue
Stopping a high-focus activity can feel like hitting a wall.
Say this
“Ten minutes left. Choose your stopping point now.”
- Step 1 — I Do: Give one calm warning without starting a lecture.
- Step 2 — We Do: Choose the stopping point and what happens next.
- Step 3 — You Do: Your teen closes the app at the agreed point.
Step 5
Sleep and late nights
The clue
A tired teen may still have a brain that cannot slow down.
Say this
“We are not forcing sleep. We are helping your body get ready.”
- Step 1 — I Do: Dim the house and lower your own energy first.
- Step 2 — We Do: Pick three steps for the same wind-down each night.
- Step 3 — You Do: Your teen starts the first step at the agreed time.
Step 6
Friendship stress
The clue
Social confusion can look like anger, hiding, or replaying one moment.
Say this
“Do you want me to listen, help you plan, or give you space?”
- Step 1 — I Do: Listen once without correcting the story.
- Step 2 — We Do: Name the feeling and one next choice together.
- Step 3 — You Do: Your teen chooses whether to reply, wait, or ask for help.
Step 7
Independence and responsibility
The clue
Teens need real choice, but they may still need a visible starting point.
Say this
“You choose how to do it. Let us agree on what done looks like.”
- Step 1 — I Do: State the need without controlling every step.
- Step 2 — We Do: Agree on the finish line and one check-in time.
- Step 3 — You Do: Your teen chooses the order and asks if stuck.
Step 8
Repair after conflict
The clue
Repair works better after both bodies are calm.
Say this
“That was hard. I love you. Let us repair one part at a time.”
- Step 1 — I Do: Own your part in one sentence without adding blame.
- Step 2 — We Do: Name what each person needs next time.
- Step 3 — You Do: Your teen chooses one repair action they can complete.
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You've got the free piece. Here's the 122-piece map.
Free tools help in the moment. The 122-piece Behavior Struggle Map gives you the step-by-step route from the hard moment to calm — built for your child.
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122 pieces — the full Behavior Struggle Map
$97$197
122 pieces in 13 kits
- Tonight's Script — word for word
- Meltdown Emergency Card (print it now)
- Behavior Tracker: spot it, stop it, support it, solve it
- School-ready summary for the teacher or IEP team
- + 118 more pages, cards and letters
13 kits · 122 ready-to-print pieces · was $197
What your $97 gets you
Every kit solves one hard part of your day. Nothing to build — open it, print it, use it.
Updated: Teen & Young Adult Tools, Bedtime Battles, and Angry Mornings are included.
Kit 1 · 10 pieces
Tonight — relief in 10 minutes
Kit 2 · 10 pieces
Spot the Clue
Kit 3 · 12 pieces
Daily Rhythm
Kit 4 · 10 pieces
Calm Tools
Kit 5 · 10 pieces
School Paper Trail
Kit 6 · 10 pieces
Meeting Day (IEP / 504)
Kit 7 · 8 pieces
Track & Prove
Kit 8 · 8 pieces
Slow Processing & Wait Time
Kit 9 · 12 pieces
Big Behaviors by Type
Kit 10 · 10 pieces
Kid-Facing Printables
Kit 11 · 10 pieces
Teen & Young Adult Tools
Kit 12 · 6 pieces
Parent Care
Kit 13 · 6 pieces
Life Disruptions
How you use it
- Step 1 — Open tonight's kit: Pick the struggle you are in right now. Read the script out loud. Relief in about 10 minutes.
- Step 2 — Print the calm cards: Put them on the fridge and in your bag so anyone with your child knows the same 3 steps.
- Step 3 — Log what you saw: One line a day on the log page. In a week you can see the pattern behind the behavior.
- Step 4 — Hand the school the plan: Print the school summary and the letter. You walk in with facts, not a story.
How this solves your problem: the yelling and the meltdowns keep repeating because no one has named the clue behind them. The Map names the clue, gives you the words for the moment, and turns what happens at home into the documented plan the school will act on.
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