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Long Lines & Waiting
Waiting is a skill their brain hasn't built yet. Don't expect it — plan around it.
Step 1 — Before you go
- 1Ask about disability access passes (Disney DAS, Universal AAP, aquarium quiet-line, etc.) — request in advance.
- 2Download a game or show that ONLY comes out in lines.
- 3Bring a chewy, a fidget, and a cold water bottle.
- 4Look up wait times before you get in line — decide together if it's worth it.
Step 2 — During the moment
- 1Give them a job: count the tiles, spot every red hat, find the letter B.
- 2Physical input helps: press palms together, push against the wall, big deep breaths.
- 3Narrate the wait: "3 more turns until us. Then 2. Then 1."
- 4If the line is going to break them, LEAVE THE LINE. It's not worth the meltdown.
Safety protectors — what to watch for
- 1Never let go of their hand in a crowded line.
- 2Point out staff/security when you enter the line — "if we get separated, find one of them."
- 3Watch for strangers standing too close or filming your child.
- 4Heat exhaustion sneaks up in outdoor lines — hat, shade, water every 15 min.
Red flags — act now
- 1Child says "I can't" and their body goes limp = nervous system is done. Leave.
- 2Sudden pale, sweaty, glassy-eyed = get out of the sun NOW.
- 3Any stranger tries to touch, photograph, or separate your child. Loud voice, staff, done.
Say this out loud
""I see this line is hard. You have two choices: hold my hand and count the red shirts with me, or we step out and try again later. Both are okay.""
In a crisis, call or text 988 (US Suicide & Crisis Lifeline) or your local emergency line. For a lost child in a public venue: find the nearest staff badge and give your child's photo and today's outfit.
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