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Day 30 — When They Don'T Look At Me
Before you call today a failure, I want you to hear this.
A kind word for tonight
I asked them one small question; they looked toward the floor. I thought they weren't paying attention, then I asked once more. But eyes don't tell the whole story of what a child can hear. We can honor different ways of listening and make directions clear.
Before we stress, let's assess
Before we stress, let's assess. Eye contact is not required for listening or understanding.
Step 1. Tonight’s reset
STOP: pause.
BREATHE: slow it down.
SAY WHAT THEY NEED: "You can listen your way. Here's the next step."
Step 2. I DO → WE DO → YOU DO
I DO: model it.
WE DO: practice together.
YOU DO: try with support.
Step 3. One small action
Use a brief direction without demanding eye contact.
Tomorrow, we can practice again. Spot the clue. Know what to do. We made it through the day.
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