My Child Falls Apart After School

Caregiver…

The teacher says:

“They had a great day!”

But five minutes after your child gets home—

the backpack hits the floor.

They’re crying.

Yelling.

Arguing.

Everything becomes a problem.

And you’re thinking:

“How were you good ALL DAY and came home acting like this?”

Psalm 4:8 KJV says:

“I will both lay me down in peace, and sleep: for thou, LORD, only makest me dwell in safety.”

Sometimes people release what they’ve been holding when they finally feel safe.

Home may be the place where your child’s body says:

“I can’t hold it anymore.”

1. PAUSE THE QUESTIONS

Don’t meet them at the door with twenty questions.

Give their brain time to land.

1. LOWER THE LOAD

Maybe homework doesn’t need to happen immediately.

Offer water.

Food.

Quiet.

Movement.

1. WATCH THE PATTERN

If the crash happens every day, that’s information.

STOP — Pause before you react.

BREATHE — One slow breath. Count to five.

SAY — “I’m going to take a minute, then try again.”

1. I Do — Show it first: model “Pause The Questions” out loud so your family can see it.

1. We Do — Practice “Lower The Load” together in a calm moment.

1. You Do — Try “Watch The Pattern” on your own today. Notice what changes.

1. Today, practice: Pause The Questions.

1. Today, practice: Lower The Load.

1. Today, practice: Watch The Pattern.

Caregiver…

They may not be giving you the worst of them.

They may be giving you what they couldn’t release anywhere else.

Sometimes home is where the mask comes down.

Don’t only react to the crash.

Read the clue.

💜 Before we stress, let’s assess.

Spot the clue. Know what to do.