The School Called Again

Caregiver…

You see the school number pop up on your phone…

and before you even answer, your stomach drops.

“What happened now?”

Another behavior.

Another incident.

Another conversation.

And sometimes that phone call can make you feel like everybody is looking at you to fix something you weren’t even there to see.

James 1:5 KJV says:

“If any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God, that giveth to all men liberally.”

Before you panic—

get wisdom.

And get information.

1. ASK WHAT HAPPENED BEFORE

What was happening right before the behavior?

A transition?

Hard work?

Noise?

Conflict?

A correction?

1. ASK WHAT SUPPORT WAS USED

Don’t stop at:

“What did my child do?”

Ask:

“What did we do to support them?”

1. ASK WHAT HAPPENED AFTER

What helped your child calm down?

How long did it take?

What can we learn for next time?

STOP — Pause before you react.

BREATHE — One slow breath. Count to five.

SAY — “I’m going to take a minute, then try again.”

1. I Do — Show it first: model “Ask What Happened Before” out loud so your family can see it.

1. We Do — Practice “Ask What Support Was Used” together in a calm moment.

1. You Do — Try “Ask What Happened After” on your own today. Notice what changes.

1. Today, practice: Ask What Happened Before.

1. Today, practice: Ask What Support Was Used.

1. Today, practice: Ask What Happened After.

Caregiver…

A school call is information.

It is not automatic proof that your child is bad.

And it is not proof that you’re failing as a parent.

Pray for wisdom.

Ask questions.

Collect the clues.

Then make the plan.

💜 Before we stress, let’s assess.

Spot the clue. Know what to do.