Calm & Cool With Monae
One method. Every lesson. Your child learns to spot the clue, then STOP → BREATHE → SAY WHAT I NEED.
- SPOT THE CLUE
- STOP
- BREATHE
- SAY WHAT I NEED
Monae's 3 steps
The clue changes. The three steps never change.
1. STOP
- Stop my body.
2. BREATHE
- Take a slow breath in.
- Let a slow breath out.
3. SAY WHAT I NEED
- “I need a break.”
- “I need help.”
- “I need some space.”
- “I'm getting mad.”
Free
Monae's Calm Card
One page for the fridge, the backpack, or the teacher's desk: STOP → BREATHE → SAY WHAT I NEED.
Kid lessons
Every lesson teaches a new clue — and the same three steps.
Lesson 1 — My hands get tight
Clue: My hands get tight.
STOP → BREATHE → SAY WHAT I NEED
Lesson 2 — My voice gets loud
Clue: My voice gets loud.
STOP → BREATHE → SAY WHAT I NEED
Lesson 3 — My face gets hot
Clue: My face gets hot.
STOP → BREATHE → SAY WHAT I NEED
Lesson 4 — My tummy flips
Clue: My tummy flips.
STOP → BREATHE → SAY WHAT I NEED
Lesson 5 — My feet want to run
Clue: My feet want to run.
STOP → BREATHE → SAY WHAT I NEED
Lesson 6 — My eyes get watery
Clue: My eyes get watery.
STOP → BREATHE → SAY WHAT I NEED
Calm & Cool Tracker
Mark one box each time your child uses STOP → BREATHE → SAY WHAT I NEED — at home or at school.
| Day | ✋ Stopped | 🌬️ Breathed | 🗣️ Said what I need |
|---|---|---|---|
| Mon | |||
| Tue | |||
| Wed | |||
| Thu | |||
| Fri | |||
| Sat | |||
| Sun |
That's my clue! I know what to do!
Stop.
Breathe.
Say what I need.
I'm learning to spot the clues, so I can know what to do, to regulate and be cool, even when I go to school!
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