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Stop, Breathe, Say What I Need

Monae's calm kit. One method. Every lesson. Your child learns to spot the clue, then STOP → BREATHE → SAY WHAT I NEED.

  1. SPOT THE CLUE
  2. STOP
  3. BREATHE
  4. SAY WHAT I NEED

Monae's 3 steps

The clue changes. The three steps never change.

  1. 1. STOP

    • Stop my body.

  2. 2. BREATHE

    • Take a slow breath in.
    • Let a slow breath out.

  3. 3. SAY WHAT I NEED

    • “I need a break.”
    • “I need help.”
    • “I need some space.”
    • “I'm getting mad.”

Free

Monae's Calm Card

One page for the fridge, the backpack, or the teacher's desk: STOP → BREATHE → SAY WHAT I NEED.

Get the free Calm Card

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Monae's Calm Cards + audio kit

Printable card set, 6 audio lessons, tracker, coloring pages and the school handoff card. Buy it now and print it tonight.

Buy Monae's Calm Cards — $97 $47

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Kid lessons

Every lesson teaches a new clue — and the same three steps.

Calm & Cool Tracker

Mark one box each time your child uses STOP → BREATHE → SAY WHAT I NEED — at home or at school.

Day✋ Stopped🌬️ Breathed🗣️ Said what I need
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That's my clue! I know what to do!

Stop.
Breathe.
Say what I need.

I'm learning to spot the clues, so I can know what to do, to regulate and be cool, even when I go to school!
Your next step

You've got the free piece. Here's the 122-piece map.

Free tools help in the moment. The 122-piece Behavior Struggle Map gives you the step-by-step route from the hard moment to calm — built for your child.

Start tonight

122 pieces — the full Behavior Struggle Map

$97$197

122 pieces in 13 kits

  • Tonight's Script — word for word
  • Meltdown Emergency Card (print it now)
  • Behavior Tracker: spot it, stop it, support it, solve it
  • School-ready summary for the teacher or IEP team
  • + 118 more pages, cards and letters
Get 122 pieces for $97 — $197

13 kits · 122 ready-to-print pieces · was $197

What your $97 gets you

Every kit solves one hard part of your day. Nothing to build — open it, print it, use it.

Updated: Teen & Young Adult Tools, Bedtime Battles, and Angry Mornings are included.

  1. Kit 1 · 10 pieces

    Tonight — relief in 10 minutes

  2. Kit 2 · 10 pieces

    Spot the Clue

  3. Kit 3 · 12 pieces

    Daily Rhythm

  4. Kit 4 · 10 pieces

    Calm Tools

  5. Kit 5 · 10 pieces

    School Paper Trail

  6. Kit 6 · 10 pieces

    Meeting Day (IEP / 504)

  7. Kit 7 · 8 pieces

    Track & Prove

  8. Kit 8 · 8 pieces

    Slow Processing & Wait Time

  9. Kit 9 · 12 pieces

    Big Behaviors by Type

  10. Kit 10 · 10 pieces

    Kid-Facing Printables

  11. Kit 11 · 10 pieces

    Teen & Young Adult Tools

  12. Kit 12 · 6 pieces

    Parent Care

  13. Kit 13 · 6 pieces

    Life Disruptions

How you use it

  1. Step 1 — Open tonight's kit: Pick the struggle you are in right now. Read the script out loud. Relief in about 10 minutes.
  2. Step 2 — Print the calm cards: Put them on the fridge and in your bag so anyone with your child knows the same 3 steps.
  3. Step 3 — Log what you saw: One line a day on the log page. In a week you can see the pattern behind the behavior.
  4. Step 4 — Hand the school the plan: Print the school summary and the letter. You walk in with facts, not a story.

How this solves your problem: the yelling and the meltdowns keep repeating because no one has named the clue behind them. The Map names the clue, gives you the words for the moment, and turns what happens at home into the documented plan the school will act on.

Not sure yet? Take the free 60-second quiz and we'll point you to the right one.

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